As promised, I am writing again. I asked my girlfriend what
a good topic to be was. She said caterpillars. We shall see. Either way, there
is a story and a topic that will be based loosely on a story she shared with me
about caterpillars. Tonight though is
more about relinquishing control of your life. Giving it to a higher power and
just enjoying the ride.
“Be willing to
relinquish the life you’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for
you.”
– Joseph Campbell.
This lesson is one that really hits home lately. It’s one
that has brought me so much more happiness than I could have anticipated. Isn’t
our goal in life to have joy?
At the end of last year/beginning of this year my divorce
was anticipated to be over. Instead it
took nearly 6 more months. I was getting really frustrated at the delay. There
didn’t seem to be any reason for the delay and it was preventing me from moving
on with my life.
I had dated for a bit but church teachings advised not to date
until divorce was final and I made the decision to stop until the divorce was
final. I waited...and waited. During that time I learned a lot. Finally I was
comfortable with myself, something that had been missing for quite some time.
Habits were built of reading positive things daily. Overall I was happy during
that time.
Yes...there were the struggles with work. I needed to move
on, I felt it, I knew it, but I was not willing to relinquish control. I wanted
that stability, felt I needed it. It took several months for me to really start
looking for work. Only a few days before I lost my job did I really start working
with my current employer to get that job. At that time I relinquished control
to God (that experience taught me something too which I’ll share in a bit).
When my divorce was finally complete mid May I wasn’t sure I
wanted to date. Anyone that talked to me knew I had said I was going to start
dating as soon as the divorce was over. I wasn’t sure that I was ready at that
point.
One fateful evening I set up an account on match.com. To say
I was a bit apprehensive about it was an understatement. Dating in my 30’s was
bound to be a nightmare, so I thought. Within
a week I went on my first and only first date (been dating her ever since)!
Positive reading material all taught me that I needed to
relinquish control so I gave in. In fear I let myself open my heart, way
quicker than I could have ever planned. One experience that helped me open up
was how supportive and positive she when I lost my job. That type of thing can
really show how someone handles tough situations. She passed with flying colors
J Every day I find
something else that I love about her. She continues to be a support and a
positive influence for me. I just hope that I can return as much as I receive.
All this because I relinquished control!
During our time dating we have both been out of town for
several weeks. It’s been difficult but each one of those trips has taught us
something important. Starting out a new relationship I would never have planned
to be apart. God has a plan...we can accept it and be happy, or we can be
stubborn, unhappy, and fight our future. If I had been stubborn (which I
usually am) and only let life go the way I planned I would never have met the
most amazing woman in the world!
Being blessed so abundantly because I let God plan my life
has been spectacular. When I say to I let God plan my life, yes I have but that
doesn’t mean that I’ve just sat back and done nothing. Laziness doesn’t work. It’s
not part of the plan. What is needed is for you to do your best and wait for
the rest!
Plan, work hard, and be ready to accept the changes as they
come your way. You’ll be happier than you could ever be by relinquishing that
control and letting yourself be happy and knowing that you did what was right
for you. I wish only the best for each of you. Relinquish control, give God the
reigns and know that even in challenges you are better off. I leave you with a
few positive quotes that remind you to relinquish control, enjoy the moment and
know there is a better future for you!
“An Arrow can only be shot by
pulling it backward. When life is dragging you back with difficulties, just
imagine that it’s going to launch you into something great”
“Accept – then act. Whatever the present moment contains,
accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it…This
will miraculously transform your whole life.”
–Eckhart Tolle
“Don’t make the
mistake of waiting for your life to be sorted before you start having a good
time. Get out there and enjoy yourself. When you start fully engaging with your
life right where you are, you’ll become energized, and so will your life.”
- Jackee Holder
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